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If you ever find yourself with a mantra stuck in your head, or wake up with one circling your psyche, it is not a mere coincidence. Each mantra is a highly nuanced and prescriptive current of energy that seeks us out when we need it most. So, on a beautiful afternoon in Australia while leading a retreat, when Thapia Na Jai came to my mind, I went looking for its meaning and the power that it bestows.

To overcome feelings of failure. This is the specific power granted to those that chant Thapia Na Jai, which is the fifth pauri in Japji Sahib by Guru Nanak. Strange, I thought. Everything was going exceptionally well in my life at that moment. And yet, the sound current persisted, and each day, it deepened its groove in my mind…thankfully.

A few days later, I boarded a plane home to California. One hour into the 13-hour flight, I started to miscarry and began the very labor-intensive, excruciating process of letting go of my 12-week-old angel baby.

As you can imagine, it was very traumatic. Not only did I have to bare the loss of something I already loved beyond words, I also had to face, process, and compost the wild emotions that surfaced from my depths.

The first of these emotions? The feeling of failure.

It is not uncommon to subconsciously feel that we are at fault when we lose someone we cared for; a spouse, grandparent, parent, child, a close friend, or even a pet. We can sometimes fall into the trap of over-responsibility by thinking we could have done something more to save them.

When I listen to Thapia Na Jai, it soothes this sense of failure immediately.

Gaaveeai suneeai man rakheeai bhaao
Dukh parhar sukh ghar lai jaai

These words are a reminder to sing, listen, and keep love for God in your heart. By doing so, the troubles of the mind will be lifted, and peace shall fill your heart and home.

Thapia Na Jai ends with the affirmation, may I never forget that God is the bestower of all Souls.

Sabhanaa jeeaa kaa ik daataa
So mai visar na jaaee

This line brought so much peace and surrender to my world. If God is the bestower of Souls, God is also the One that brings a Soul back home; in the perfect time, in the perfect place.


Thaapiaa na jaai, keeta na ho-i
Aapay aap niranjan so-i
Jin seviaa tin paaiaa maan
Naanak gaaveeai gunee nidhaan
Gaaveeai suneeai man rakheeai bhaao
Dukh parhar sukh ghar lai jaai
Gurmukh naadang gurmukh vedang
Gurmukh rehiaa samaaee
Gur eesar gur gorakh barma gur paarbatee maaee
Jay hau jaanaa aakhaa naahee
Kehanaa kathan na jaaee
Guraa ik dayh bujhaaee
Sabhanaa jeeaa kaa ik daataa
So mai visar na jaaee

(Editor’s Note: Listen to Charanpal’s rendition of Thapia Na Jai here.)

After lifting the feelings of failure, I was ready to deal with the heavy sense of grief that beckoned my love and attention. To heal grief properly, it cannot be rushed. Grief is testament that there is a deep, deep love for that which we have lost, and that love needs to be honored.

It is wise to reach out for support as we grieve, for grief, as it is released, needs a container. One cannot simultaneously be the one releasing and the one containing. In the times where I was all alone, Ardas Bhaee became my container.

Ardas Bhaee is a traditional mantra in the lineage of Kundalini yoga. Yogi Bhajan called it the “prayer of all prayers.” He shared, “If you sing it, your mind, body and soul automatically combine and without saying what you want, the need of the life is adjusted. That is the beauty of this prayer.”

Chanting Ardas Bhaee releases the suffering from emotional attachment by sending out our prayers, surrendering, and letting go peacefully with the comfort that we are being held and heard.


Ardas Bhaee Amar Das Guru,
Amar Das Guru, Ardas Bhaee,
Ram Das Guru, Ram Das Guru, Ram Das Guru, Sachee Sahee

(Editor’s Note: Listen to Charanpal’s rendition of Ardas Bhaee here.)

Your prayer will be sent out to Guru Amar Das, whose energy field is that of hope and grace. Your prayer will then be manifest by the Lord of Miracles, Guru Ram Das.

When coping with loss, if we repress or harbor our emotions, it can close down the heart chakra and lead us into a spiral of negativity, bitterness, hopelessness, and depression. Jai Te Gung is the shabd for liberating yourself from the pull of negative emotions.

Written by Guru Gobind Singh, the tenth Sikh Guru, Jai Te Gung begins with an imperial hail to the sword that wields the ‘power to break through and cut down the demons of the mind and body.’

Khag khand bihandan khal dal khandan at ran mandan bar bandan

The sword emancipates us and bestows great courage, strength and happiness to those that seek its refuge.

When I’ve had several days in a row where I’ve felt low, Jai Te Gung rescues me. The sheer power of its penetration moves in like a lightning bolt and resuscitates my willpower.


Khag khand bihandang khal dal khandang at ran mandang bar bandang
Bhujdandh akhandhang tej prachandhang jot amandhang bhaan prabhang
Sukh santaa karnang durmat darnang kilbikh harnang as sarnang
Jai jai jag kaaran srist ubaaran mam pratipaaran jai tay gang

(Editor’s Note: Listen to Charanpal’s rendition of Jai Te Gung here.)

Beyond words, beyond actions, beyond all thought, there is an inner knowing which can help us move beyond coping and into the authentic celebration of someone’s life. This inner knowing is our faith in the Ultimate Truth. Our beloveds went home, where they are no longer suffering. They are with Spirit and we, here on earth, can revel in the magic of being touched by their Soul. We have gained another angel.

Sat Nam,

Editor’s Note: Listen to Charanpal Kaur’s latest album Jala, where she dives deep , delivering a silken, cutting edge new sound replete with binaural beats, whale calls, and specific mantras for healing and releasing grief. Her third mantra album to date is an homage to the unborn child she miscarried while on an airplane. These songs became the salve that soothed her during this time of loss. Charanpal believes the melodies were written by the unborn soul, named Jala, to transmit healing to the planet during these trying times.


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