Many people turn to Kundalini Yoga meditations and kriyas to help them find love. There are Kundalini kriyas to open the heart and meditations to let go of past relationships (check out the I am a Woman manual for lots of ideas!). But in my experience, while these kriyas help, they aren’t necessarily going to get the job done on their own. I believe that it IS possible to find true love through Kundalini Yoga, but it doesn’t necessarily work in the ways that we think.
While it’s great to pick a Kundalini meditation or kriya that works on something specific, the most important thing is to have a consistent practice. When you practice Kundalini Yoga, we raise our Kundalini energy and that’s what makes us feel so good after class. But if we don’t keep up with the practice, this sense of being uplifted begins to wear off and we lose that short term “high”. With a daily sadhana, we stay elevated and this begins to affect how we relate to ourselves and to others.
Part of this process is also that we let go of the need for perfection. You don’t have to be a perfect yogi to get a great effect from Kundalini yoga. Nor do you have to be a perfect human being to have a great life. But sometimes, if we’re looking for love, we begin to focus on the flaws of the other person rather than their strengths. I’ve sometimes heard my friends reject potential dates because of how they look or what their profession is. With a consistent Kundalini Yoga practice, we are able to relate to another person at an energetic level rather than superficially. We’re then able to connect with people on a much deeper level, and many of those criticisms fade away.
As an example, I’ll share my personal story. For many years, I thrived as a single professional woman living in Washington, DC. I had a great job, a fantastic group of friends, and I was a dedicated yogi with lots of time to practice. While I dated and had some relationships, I wasn’t consciously looking for “true love”—until it appeared in front of me.
So how did that happen? I definitely credit my Kundalini Yoga practice. First of all, Kundalini Yoga works powerfully on building self-love and self-acceptance. I think many singles—or even married couples who have drifted apart—have lost touch with their sense of self-love. There is a Kundalini Meditation for Creating Self-Love and there is a mantra for self-esteem. In other words, the first step in finding true love is to fall in love with yourself. And in our busy world, that also means slowing down and taking time to just BE, rather than DOING all the time.
But I also found the love of my life because I kept up. When my life-partner and I started dating, I had committed to a 40-day sadhana of a wonderful kriya, Opportunity and Green Energy. I was not doing this kriya because I was looking for love. I had selected it because it was fun and energetic, and it teaches that prosperity comes in many different forms, not necessarily how you expect it. I was focused and diligent, and for the entire 40 days, I dedicated 50 minutes each morning to this kriya. At the end, I saw the visible shift in my life. I had opened my eyes—and my heart—and was involved in a beautiful loving relationship with a long-time friend. This was not what I expected, but I credit Kundalini Yoga for bringing us together.
So, maybe it will work for you? Pick a kriya, commit, keep up, and open your eyes to a new way of seeing the world around you.